i hate mondays!!

I absolutely HATE mondays! Just wanted to say that.

The negativity continues...

I hate teaching on mondays! Kids are fucking crazy on mondays!

I hate working out. Why is my left arm so damn weak?? DAMN. lol

I absolutely HATE Flo-rida and anything that sounds remotely close!!!

I hate television.

I hate the fact that I want to go back to school but can't afford it.

I hate that I have to buy a new car in the next two weeks and therefore will be subjected to a monthly car payment.

complicated??

First of all, if you don't have The Evolution of Robin Thicke in your collection, you should really consider hurting yourself!! Seriously. And for those of you with the ability to distinguish good music from the warmed over garbage that is contemporary R&B and already have this masterpiece in your collection, I suggest revisiting it. As noted a few days ago, I'm upset with hip hop right now and I have decided to revisit a few of my favorite "slow jams". Lately, its been Robin Thicke and also an occasional Jodeci track. Now usually, I'm not one to get my "Ne-Yo on" and sulk over love songs, but after listening to "Complicated", I couldn't help but reflect on my past relationship. Granted, our breakup was amicable, but was I too complicated? I've always thought of myself as a pretty good "boyfriend" with minimal complications but I know that we are all naturally complex to a degree. So I started thinking, what are the things that make me complicated??

Tendency to be condescending - Simply put, I always think that I'm smarter than my partner. This flawed way of thinking usually translates into me patronizing the one I am with. Not a good look.

Lazy - All of my relationships have been with extremely organized women. Unfortunately, I am the complete opposite and I think my laziness may have contributed to a few problems.

I'm always right - I get this from my mama and this is tied into my first "complication". I don't argue if I'm wrong. My mom always says, "I'm telling you this because I'm right". And now I do the same thing. I know it sounds arrogant and cocky but when I speak on something, 99.9% of the time I'm right. If I had any doubt in my correctness, I wouldn't have opened my mouth to speak.

Competitive - I'm a competitive person. In my last relationship specifically my competitiveness is a major reason why I am now single. For some odd reason, everything is like a competition for me. I guess you can attribute it to typical male machismo. I just love to compete.

What makes you complicated??

the answers...

"But through all the lessons that you taught me I have learned my experiences enhanced my character" - Musiq Soulchild

why "1980", i mean, i guess ur 27, but what made you choose that name?
A big part of who I am today comes from my childhood during the 80s. So since every is obsessed with being an 80s baby, I figured I would switch it up a lil bit and just represent the year I was born. It was a great year!! Not that I remember it!! lol

1 song u will never get tired of...
There are tons on songs I can never really get tired of but right now two come to mind John Mayer "Come Back To Bed" and Musiq Soulchild "Time". I absolutely LOVE those two songs!

1 celebrity you want to have your children...
This one is too hard to pick just one! Right now there are a few I wouldn't mind impregnating lol. First would have to be Sanaa Lathan ( I fell in love after Brown Sugar), Cassie (yeah I know she's young, but she is legal!! lol) and I'm not sure if the last two can be considered celebrities but they can both still get it...Nikki Jean (most recently seen in Lupe's Hip Hop Saved My Life video) and this chick VASHTIE (she's a budding video director, a former fashion consultant for def jam, and currently a candidate for my baby mama!)

why are u searching for your swag...does that mean you lost it, or you never had it?
Oh trust, I have ALWAYS had swagger!! lol..But I am just searching for a different type of swagger. I'm searching for that confidence to really follow my dreams and accomplish the things that will make me thoroughly enjoy every minute of life. People that have total swagger, aren't afraid to take the risks required to live out your dreams. I'm still searching...

fav color?
Grey. My closet is loaded with grey everything. Shirts, shoes, sweaters, socks lol... I love grey!

pepsi or coke?
neither. I drink water

children?
None. I want a lil boy and I want to name him Maverick, but whenever I tell people they think it's a stupid name. It's different but I like it. You think Sanaa would like that name??

married?
One day

What's up with Duke when it comes to NCAA tourneys?
Idk what the hell is going on with Duke. But I'm pissed! We haven't done shit in the tournament in the last couple of years!

Name one thing someone has ever told you that has made an impact on your life.
Always have a plan!! Fail to plan, plan to fail. It's so true!!

What made you choose the name of your blog?
see answer to the fourth question

one thing in life that you've done that you never thought you would do?
Drop out of college. I dropped out after my first semester. It was definitely a dumb move, but I came back to my senses and finished up school.

What is your dream career?
My dream career is to be a writer. I love writing and one day I'm gonna find a way to make a living by doing what I love.

Five things you want to do in your lifetime.

• Go to a Duke Basketball game at Cameron Indoor Stadium.
• Travel to Africa and Japan
  
• See The Roots in concert
• Help my mother retire
• Have a child
  

How did you get into blogging?
I just decided to start blogging as a way to make myself write on a consistent basis. When I first started this blog it was about hip hop and fashion, then eventually I started getting bored with hip hop so I just started doing random posts about life, music, politics and whatever else came to mind. I didnt really care if anyone was reading I just wanted to make it a habit to write everyday.

favorite song of all time?
That's too hard. I don't have just one but I can tell you that Mary J. Blige "My Life" is my favorite album of all time.

how tall are you?
Let's ask the question you really wanted to ask. Am I 6'0" or higher?? No. I feel like women only really care about you if you are tall. I don't understand it. Sorry Eb I don't fit into your perfect man box! lol

have you ever gone streaking? if not, how much money would it take for you to do it? streaking??
Hell no! but if you pay off my student loans right now, i'll run across america butt ass naked!!

if you were a superhero, what would be your name and special ability?
I really wish I could read people's mind. That would definitely be my special ability. My name?? "Cravin Morehead" lol...That has absolutely nothing to do with my ability, just an excuse to use that name because I think its funny. lol

most influential person in your life?
My mother, hands down. She has been such a force in my life. I have a VERY tight bond with my mother. She is a single parent and I am her only child so we have been through alot together. I'm proud to admit to being a Mama's boy. I LOVE MY MAMA!!! lol

What were childhood dreams and how did you fulfill them??
I wanted to be like mike!! Clearly that dream was not fulfilled.

is there one artistic thing that you are horrible at that you would like to master? (e.g. dancing, singing, painting, etc)
I dont have one artistic bone in my body, but I really wished I could draw because I have some good ideas that I want to get out. I completely suck at drawing!

What made you want to become a teacher?
It was kind of the spur of the moment decision. I finished my bachelor's in Political Science and the job opportunities just werent available. Soooo, I went back to school and got my Masters in Education and got a job teaching. Teaching had always been in the back of my mind so I figured I would give it a try.

What's your favorite movie of all time?
Four way tie between ET, Carlito's Way, Friday and Coming To America.

What's your favorite food?
Stereotypical black man....I love ribs!

you've got mail...

I have a few drafts that I'm working on, so until I finish them I guess I will do like everyone else and open up for some questions. Anything you want to know about me, just ask...I'll try my best to answer all questions.

do you??

happy easter!

fiend.

UPDATE: THIS IS COMPLETELY FICTIONAL...JUST THOUGHT I SHOULD CLEAR THAT UP.

UPDATE TWO: THIS IS PART ONE OF A COLLAB BETWEEN DESY AND I. READ PART TWO HERE

The mere scent of a woman nearly drives me to the point of climax. I am addict; a relentless one at that, enthralled by the motion of a woman’s hips as she walks. Salivating as her strut invites me into the most intimate crevices of her body with little effort. My eyes immediately gravitate to the small of the back as I envision caressing that very spot with the tips of my thumb as I gently tame her kitten from behind. I love to imagine the details of our escapade from the point where I lure her into my web to the exact moment I’m injecting my sweet venom into her, satisfying that craving that fuels me. Sex is a pleasing experience for most, but a vice for me; a habit that has crippled my ambition and made nature’s pleasurable facilitator of life a woeful burden. The seconds that pass by are spent thinking about the delectable taste of a woman’s nectar and the calculated cadence of my manhood that follows. The sound a woman emits after I have driven her to her pinnacle and the comforting feeling of her body trembling as we both share a brief moment of vulnerability. It’s my weakness and against my mightiest will I have began to dwell in those moments of defenselessness. For me sex is the taste of nicotine and tobacco thwarting the resistance of a pesky patch. But I have succumbed to the beckoning of this vice for the final time.

All things must come to an end. This obsession will no longer inhibit me. I quit. I’m tired of this yearning occupying my waking moments and invading the innocence of my dreams. I’m tired of the lingering feeling of guilt that follows those quiet mutual moments of vulnerability. No longer will I be motivated by the smooth friction of two sweaty bodies working tirelessly in the name of love. For it is not love that motivates me, it is an intense urge rooted in greed and selfishness. I’ll fight that urge with the ferocity of a follower of the Lord’s word and contain my addiction to the point of celibacy. I quit.

hip hop is boring...

Hip hop is super boring right now. Seriously. I can't even think of five hip hop songs that I like right now. What makes it worst is the fact that I'm only looking forward to a couple of records to drop; The Roots in April and Nas' Nigger, if that ever sees the light of day. In the absence of hip hop, J*Davey has been getting alot of burn in the iPod lately. So what do I do when there is no quality hip hop to listen to?? Well I scour myspace for anything that sounds remotely interesting. What I found was a young lady by the name of Sy Smith. Though her sound resembles that of J*Davey, Sy stands alone as her own artist. Apparently, Sy has been around for some time, appearing in GAP commercials and even in a small role on that Ally McBeal show. How come I have never heard of this chick until today?? She's the former lead singer of the Brand New Heavies, has sang background on American Idol and even has a duet with Al Green for that old Soul Food show that came on Showtime. I guess today was a good day for me to discover her because she's hosting her album release party on Mar. 26th here in DC. The songs on her myspace page are cool but nothing beats live music. If your in the area, go check her out at Bohemian Caverns on U Street, I'll probably be in the building.


SY SMITH @ Myspace

i love black people...

This has absolutely nothing to do with this post but, am I the only one that thought T-Pain was at least 30??! Imagine my shock when Teddy "Pin her ass down" showed up on BET's Top 25 Under 25. *confused face*

-Back to the scheduled program-



Ok. Let's face it. Black people love being black. We love our swagger, our style, our talk, our uniqueness, but most importantly we love letting everybody else know that we love who we are. I know for a fact I would never relinquish my "blackness" . So a couple nights ago my school held our first annual poetry slam. A few of my students were performing so I went to show my support. I must say I was very impressed, you'd be surprised just how talented and creative some kids are. Anyway, of the 25 poets to perform, I think 7 or 8 were black. All except one performed a poem about being black. While I was excited to see young black kids having an understanding of their culture and self-worth, I still thought it was a little cliche for the kids to perform the typical "proud to be black" spoken word poem. Regardless of what I believed to be a lack of creativity, it was still clear that these kids loved being black. It got me thinking, why is it okay for us to be so proud and vocal about our culture? But if a white kid performed a "I'm White and proud" poem, we would be outraged? Or would we?

rest in peace...

B.I.G. is making this cream
Bitches always say what the hell does that mean?

B is for the bitches, who can't understand
How one fly nigga became a man
I is for the way it goes in and out
One by one I knocks em out
G is for the way the game goes in the gutter
Other MC's man they ain't sayin nuthin
Rockin on, to the break of dawn
Meet the bitch, get the pussy, get the math I'm gone...

-Biggie

singing in the rain...

Random shit for a rainy day...

Why was blogger down for hours this afternoon??

The blogosphere is off the chain!! Between Don, Eb and Desy...things are really heating up. Very interesting.

I've seen those fake magazine covers all over Facebook and Myspace and I always thought they were corny and vowed never to do one. Weeellllll...my homie Randy tagged me and even though I am not obligated to actually do it, I figured I might as well keep the tag going...

Brittany, Desy ,H.E.R. and Manny you've been tagged! Go here to make yours...Mag My Pic

The search for the new car has begun. Initially I was going to go with another Honda, but lately I've been considering a Volvo s40. Usually, when I think Volvo I think middle aged white man with kids. Idk...what do you think???



What's in you iPod that needs to be in mine?? I got a $15 itunes gift card...any suggestions??

make lemonade...

"things fall apart and tend to shatter..." - Black Thought

I woke up this morning and my car wouldn't start. I had full intentions on coming home today after work and writing out a lengthy post about how life will throw the proverbial "curveball", and probably follow that with some cliche quote about overcoming obstacles. But the fact of the matter is that MY CAR WONT START!!! And now I really need to try to get a new car!

I'm pissed!

Be back later...

five things...

In celebration of Women's History month, I thought I would share five random things I love about women...

In no particular order..

• Maternal instincts - I commend women for having the strength to birth a child. Along with child bearing comes those natural maternal instincts, I am definitely appreciative of that quality.
  
• Matching bra and panties - Ok so I'm sure this one is up for debate because several females have told me that matching bra and panties are NOT an everyday thing.
  
• Side boob - I'm more of an ass man myself, but I must admit there's something about a lil side boob that gets me going.
  
• The small of the back - This might possibly be the sexiest part of a womans body. Well of course that is if they have enough ass to create that small dip between their ass and back.
  
• Working out - Work out clothes are sexy. Period. Really I don't even care if she is even working out. But if she is, a lil sweat makes her even sexier. Nothing is sexy about seeing a woman drenched in sweat looking like just finished playin ball for five hours.

you be the judge...

"True story, my closet is like two stories..." - Jay Z


So a couple of weeks ago, a few friends and I gathered to celebrate my 1st birthday in DC. We spent Happy Hour at a bar in a notoriously gay area of town. No homo... just cheap drinks. A friend of mine made a joke that my vest may possibly attract gay men. I thought the vest was a good look but clearly the joke of the night was that my vest was borderline gay. I'm comfortable with my manhood but since I am back into the "single life" I don't want to be signaling anyones "gaydar". So I'm leaving it up to the blog world to decide. Should I retire the vest??

i'm a player...

UPDATE: Check a female perspective HERE


"I'm a player..... girl I thought you knew
When you started messin around with me, knew I wouldn't commit to you
Cause I'm a player...... and I know you can't see it in my eyes......
Everyone says that I'm innocent, and it should come as no surprise....
That I'm a player........... and I really think you need to know
That I can't love you right now baby, 'cause I need more time to grow......."
-112

I remember when I was younger, I was fascinated with "the chase". In high school, it was all about how many "numbers" you can get. My friends and I were all chasing ass without a clue about "real game". A few relationships later and a few years older and now I realize that "the chase" requires a lot more energy than I may be willing to expend. Now, after a few years away from the game, I'm walking back out into the single life and "the chase" doesn't look so appealing. But don't worry I haven't been completely away from the game. I've been soaking up some knowledge from Mr. Tariq Nasheed. For those of you that are unfamiliar with his work, Nasheed is the author of the classic book Art of Mackin' and a few others. He is the arch nemesis of the infamous lipstick alley crew and hatin' ass females everywhere. Nasheed has been criticized and depicted as a callous, disrespectful man that teaches men how to degrade women. But that is far from the truth. Nasheed is on a mission to bring value and virtue to the game. I strongly suggest, females and males listen to his podcasts and soak up a lil game. Plus the nigga is just funny as hell! His latest podcast touched on some new player rules for 2008. And since the single life is now a reality for me, I figured now would be a good time to discuss these rules.

Player rules according to Tariq Nasheed...

1. Demand respect - Nasheed is big on respect. According to him, any form of disrespect needs to be addressed the moment it occurs. I agree. Women like to test men. They do shit just to see how we would react and if you let them get away with it, they see it as a form of weakness.

2. Don't lower your standards - This is a big one for me, because I am extremely picky. Lowering your standards means settling. I refuse to settle. Settling is the first step in not fully appreciating your self worth. I'm gonna do an entire post devoted to not settling and finding "my prototype".

3. No Myspace cupcakin - I think this goes with out saying. For me, myspace is nothing more than a way to stay in contact with old friends. You won't find me on myspace leaving lame ass picture comments.

4. No phone bonin - I hate talking on the phone! I absolutely hate it. Nasheed insists that you make a female value your time by not spending hours on the phone with her. Even if you have hours of time to waste on the phone, never let the female know that. Well you don't have to worry about that with me, because I hate the phone.

5. Don't let flake outs go unchecked - This goes back to the respect issue. If a female flakes out on a date, make her make it up to you. I haven't been on a date in years and I'm actually anxious to go on one. But I'm definitely not looking forward to the possibility of being stood up.


Special rule - Always give a female your number and instruct her when to call you. - This is an unorthodox technique that Nasheed asserts is a fool proof way to determine whether or not a woman is interested in you. Obviously, this is the complete opposite to my old way of thinking (collecting "numbers") but it is a good technique. If the female is really interested then she will call. It sets the tone for me in the beginning because I am dictating the speed of "the chase".

These are just a few of Tariq's rules but I thought it would be good to share these and also review them myself as a reminder on how to conduct myself out in the single life. I'm not really looking for a relationship, just looking for someone to chill with.

black man with a cape...

I'll start by saying Robert Townsend is a talented filmmaker and director (Five Heartbeats was the shit). With that said, Meteor Man is the dumbest movie I have ever seen. Seriously. I woke up this morning, turned on the television and was treated to a scene from Meteor Man featuring James Earl Jones with a high top box. I understand the premise was to show a black superhero and I applaud Townsend for his ambition, but seeing Big Daddy Kane, Don Cheadle and Debo as members of a street gang with blonde hair just isn't very convincing. I remember really liking this movie when I was a kid...or maybe that was Blank Man. Either way, now that I'm older I can honestly say this movie sucks. But its still funny seeing James Earl Jones' hair...and if you don't think so, try watching this youtube clip without cracking a smile. Gotta love the 90s!