i'm a player...

UPDATE: Check a female perspective HERE


"I'm a player..... girl I thought you knew
When you started messin around with me, knew I wouldn't commit to you
Cause I'm a player...... and I know you can't see it in my eyes......
Everyone says that I'm innocent, and it should come as no surprise....
That I'm a player........... and I really think you need to know
That I can't love you right now baby, 'cause I need more time to grow......."
-112

I remember when I was younger, I was fascinated with "the chase". In high school, it was all about how many "numbers" you can get. My friends and I were all chasing ass without a clue about "real game". A few relationships later and a few years older and now I realize that "the chase" requires a lot more energy than I may be willing to expend. Now, after a few years away from the game, I'm walking back out into the single life and "the chase" doesn't look so appealing. But don't worry I haven't been completely away from the game. I've been soaking up some knowledge from Mr. Tariq Nasheed. For those of you that are unfamiliar with his work, Nasheed is the author of the classic book Art of Mackin' and a few others. He is the arch nemesis of the infamous lipstick alley crew and hatin' ass females everywhere. Nasheed has been criticized and depicted as a callous, disrespectful man that teaches men how to degrade women. But that is far from the truth. Nasheed is on a mission to bring value and virtue to the game. I strongly suggest, females and males listen to his podcasts and soak up a lil game. Plus the nigga is just funny as hell! His latest podcast touched on some new player rules for 2008. And since the single life is now a reality for me, I figured now would be a good time to discuss these rules.

Player rules according to Tariq Nasheed...

1. Demand respect - Nasheed is big on respect. According to him, any form of disrespect needs to be addressed the moment it occurs. I agree. Women like to test men. They do shit just to see how we would react and if you let them get away with it, they see it as a form of weakness.

2. Don't lower your standards - This is a big one for me, because I am extremely picky. Lowering your standards means settling. I refuse to settle. Settling is the first step in not fully appreciating your self worth. I'm gonna do an entire post devoted to not settling and finding "my prototype".

3. No Myspace cupcakin - I think this goes with out saying. For me, myspace is nothing more than a way to stay in contact with old friends. You won't find me on myspace leaving lame ass picture comments.

4. No phone bonin - I hate talking on the phone! I absolutely hate it. Nasheed insists that you make a female value your time by not spending hours on the phone with her. Even if you have hours of time to waste on the phone, never let the female know that. Well you don't have to worry about that with me, because I hate the phone.

5. Don't let flake outs go unchecked - This goes back to the respect issue. If a female flakes out on a date, make her make it up to you. I haven't been on a date in years and I'm actually anxious to go on one. But I'm definitely not looking forward to the possibility of being stood up.


Special rule - Always give a female your number and instruct her when to call you. - This is an unorthodox technique that Nasheed asserts is a fool proof way to determine whether or not a woman is interested in you. Obviously, this is the complete opposite to my old way of thinking (collecting "numbers") but it is a good technique. If the female is really interested then she will call. It sets the tone for me in the beginning because I am dictating the speed of "the chase".

These are just a few of Tariq's rules but I thought it would be good to share these and also review them myself as a reminder on how to conduct myself out in the single life. I'm not really looking for a relationship, just looking for someone to chill with.